Do you ever ask yourself when is the right time to start teaching your children that you have to work for what you get? That not everything is handed to them? When do we start "chores"? I only have a two year old and have asked myself these questions several times.
It's always been a fear of mine that I will raise an entitled child because well to say the least I have a very "giving" husband that shows his love through gifts. I also may be guilty of this spoiling a little too.....and then there are the grandmas....and the list goes on from there. To say the least my children are very blessed.
Now more than ever, my generation, and I fear my children children's generation have a sense of superiority and entitlement. For some reason these generations feel they have the divine right to everything they want or that their parents have just for being born. Well I have news for all these people. You DO NOT have a right to anything!!! You are ONLY entitled to what YOU WORK for.
Our parents and grandparents didn't get what they have from walking around acting like someone owes them something, the WROKED HARD, and some are still working HARD for everything that they have. So with that being said I ask myself "How do I avoid this with my own kiddos?"
My answer to this question so far has been to teach them that everyone plays a part. E. is two and half and has two chores that she helps me with daily. Her jobs are to help feed her pony and to help me rinse dishes. BOTH of these job she LOVES! Work does not always have to be unenjoyable. Also work does not always have to come with a physical reward or treat. When E. helps me with her jobs I talk to her about how that makes mommy's heart feel. We use the terms "happy heart" and "sad heart". I emphasize to her that when she helps me and takes care of her jobs she makes my "heart happy". We also talk about how Minimus, her pony depends on us to feed her everyday and that is how she "grows big and strong"/stays alive and we get to continue to enjoy playing with her.
As for now that is enough reward for her. Maybe when she is thirteen she will be earning her trips to the mall. Who knows?! haha I am sure she will outgrow making my "heart happy", but for now that is just enough.
My advice is to teach your kids develop a love for helping, contributing, and being a part of the family team. In this house we all have to HUSTLE to get anything done. Insitll in your children a drive to achieve more from the start. Give them the feeling of responsibility and with that responsibility will come a sense of self worth and value.
Just my food for thought for the week!
All the feelings,